Lei dated Byron Kelleher, a New Zealand rugby union halfback, from 2005 to 2006. She lived with him in New Zealand until June 2006.
Outside her adult film work, she was the host of a radio show on KSEX, Me So Horny with Kaylani Lei. Lei has made an appearance on the Howard Stern radio show while he was on national broadcast radio (pre-Sirius satellite radio change over), and she has made appearances on Playboy TV. In 2007, she was the co star of the Cinemax series The Erotic Traveler, as "Allison Kraft" - an apprentice erotic Photographer. She appeared in one episode of the 2011 series Chemistry as a Japanese businesswoman named Yokushi Shimato.
In 2010, Lei appeared alongside fellow Wicked Pictures contract star Alektra Blue in the Free Speech Coalition's "All-Star Anti-Piracy PSA" on the topic of copyright infringement of adult content.
In 2011, Complex magazine ranked her at #24 in their list of "The Top 50 Hottest Asian Porn Stars of All Time".
Lei has also appeared several times on the TV series Zane's Sex Chronicles and in the 2013 documentary Risky Business: A Look Inside America's Adult Film Industry.
